Everything costs something. Your job, your social life, your love life, fitness. It all costs something. It costs time, it costs money, and it costs neglect from other areas of your life. What is 'it'? 'It' is whatever you choose it to be. We only have 100% effort to give in this life, and too often we do not give 100%. In many, the things we do do not add up to 100% effort, however others do possess the ability to give that 100. We cannot be the best father, best friend/confidant, best athlete, best cook, best employee. We simply do not have enough hours in a day to become the best in multiple areas of our life. It has been said that one must practice 10,000 hours in their chosen skill to become a master at it. That is 3 hours a day, Monday through Sunday, for a decade (kinda).
I am a coach, not a personal trainer. I've done the personal training route, however, I do not feel it's for me. A trainer, of course trains their client. They help them, mold their form and give them a program to succeed in whatever they hope in succeeding at (most likely loosing weight). A coach is different. A real coach, is in their clients head 24/7. They listen, they hear, and they FEEL their (players, clients, members, athletes). A good coach knows their athletes insecurities, knows their likes and dislikes, yet does what is best for them. Coaching someone does not take place physically, it takes place in each players mind. The player has great ability and aspirations physically, but what they do not realize is that to get there, their mind needs evolve. It needs to be shaped by outside factors, and typically that is where a coach comes in.
I have accepted that I am a coach. I love influencing people, that is my passion. I do not possess the knowledge of trainers around the world, nor do I possess the background of psychologists to help people mentally, however I feel I have invested enough time and energy (through trial and error) to apply experiences gained through my members to become a prominent coach in the area that I belong.
We need to choose what we want to be good at. 'Good' is a relative term, yet good to the individual means something spiritual. To be good at being a father might mean giving their child a smile. Good for coach might be having a breakthrough in overcoming a box jump fear. You get the picture, are we the best father or coach? No, however we attempt to apply the time and effort to being good in the hours and energy we possess in a given day, week, month, year.
I hope one day to be a great father, lover, coach, friend, and athlete all in one. Will I be the best? I will not, however balance is what will make me a good man. I want to leave a positive influence on my kid(s), my wife, my members, friends, and anybody I come in contact with. I fall short in a lot of categories in my life currently, and have no significant other. I have no kids, and am currently starting my life as an adult. I am attempting to find my balance, I am attempting to be adequate in various areas to make me a well rounded human being. It is not always the hardest worker, however it is often the person who can balance(manage) the various things thrown at them in life that make them someone to look up to, to aspire to be. We all have those people and we need to realize that they are not the best in what they do, however they manage their costs and realize that everything costs something. They balance out their energy, putting their time in the right places. I suggest we plan out where we want to put in that energy, that love.
